"Are you angry when someone's armpits stink or when their breath is bad? What would be the point? Having such a mouth and such armpits, there's going to be a smell emanating. You say, they must have sense, can't they tell how they are offending others? Well, you have sense too, congratulations! So, use your natural reason to awaken theirs, show them, call it out. If the person will listen, you will have cured them without useless anger. No drama nor unseemly show required. -MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS, 5.28
("누군가의 겨드랑이에서 악취가 나거나 입냄새가 날 때, 당신은 화가 납니까? 그럴 필요가 있나요? 그런 입과 그런 겨드랑이를 가졌다면, 당연히 냄새가날 것입니다. 당신은 말합니다, 그들은 상식이 있으니, 다른 사람들에게 불쾌감을 주는 것을 알지 않습니까? 그렇다면 축하합니다, 당신도 상식이 있군요! 그러니 당신의 본능적인 이성을 이용해 상대방의 이성을 일깨우고, 그것을 보여주고, 불러내세요. 상대방이 귀를 기울인다면 쓸데없는 분노 없이 상대방을 치료한 것입니다. 드라마틱하거나 보기 흉한 쇼는 필요 없습니다. -마르쿠스 아우렐리우스, 명상록, 5.28)
The person sitting next to you on the plane, the one who is loudly chattering and knocking around in your space? The one you're grinding your teeth about, hating from the depth of your soul because they're rude, ignorant, obnoxious? In these situations, you might feel it takes everything you have to restrain yourself from murdering them.
It's funny how that thought comes into our heads before, you know, politely asking them to stop, or making the minor scene of ...